I've found the following steps to work for me.
1. Set a deadline - give yourself a date after which you will no longer allow yourself to pine over what you're about to lose. Ensure that is realistic or else when the date comes and goes and you're not over your problem you'll find yourself becoming depressed.
2. Write it down - a visual reminder Sometimes it's all that we need to get over certain things. If your space is private enough consider putting it on your mirror as a daily reminder.
3. List all the reasons that whatever is it you are trying to get over is not good for you. Making an actual list will sometimes give you that jolt you needed to move on. Reality will hit and you will have a stronger mental resolve as a result.
4. Let it go a little bit at a time. Cold turkey works for some things. Other things need to be changed over time. Break down your problem into parts. Set mini deadlines for dealing with each part.
5. Pray, pray, pray. This should come first, in the middle and last. In other words, pray the entire time. Pray for God's wisdom, strength, clarity of thought and focus because you will need it. You might even consider a fast too. A fast will help teach you some self control, this may help prevent you from going back to what you've left behind.
2. Write it down - a visual reminder Sometimes it's all that we need to get over certain things. If your space is private enough consider putting it on your mirror as a daily reminder.
3. List all the reasons that whatever is it you are trying to get over is not good for you. Making an actual list will sometimes give you that jolt you needed to move on. Reality will hit and you will have a stronger mental resolve as a result.
4. Let it go a little bit at a time. Cold turkey works for some things. Other things need to be changed over time. Break down your problem into parts. Set mini deadlines for dealing with each part.
5. Pray, pray, pray. This should come first, in the middle and last. In other words, pray the entire time. Pray for God's wisdom, strength, clarity of thought and focus because you will need it. You might even consider a fast too. A fast will help teach you some self control, this may help prevent you from going back to what you've left behind.
I do hope that these steps will help you leave the weights behind and launch into God's purpose for your life. Have a blessed day.
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Thanks Joanna for the pointers....Something i find extremely hard to let go of is television. I JUST LOVE IT!! There are certain series that i am hooked on and which may be considered inappropriate for a christian to watch for example scandal, devious maids and all those reality shows that you love to hate on but you still watch i just don't know why....I am taking it step by step and letting go of watching a few but it's extremely difficult. I will definitely try what you suggested but is there anything else you would recommend or should i continue watching these series because I feel like they do not affect me negatively.
ReplyDeleteDo these shows add anything to your life or do they taint your view of life? Are they riddled with negative language? Would you watch them with your pastor or would you feel embarrassed about the content if he were around? At the end of the day, you should consider exposing yourself only to things that edify or genuinely entertain. I have my fair share of TV series addictions, but like you I've had to cut some of them out simply because I began to feel guilty about exposing myself to some of the filth. At the end of the day, who determines what's right or what's wrong is God and the fact that you are feeling convicted when you watch these shows says that He's trying to get your attention about it. So be obedient about it. There are other shows that you can replace these with that don't compromise your Spiritual health, try that as a start. Eventually, you may find your taste for these shows completely gone. Also, try changing your mindset, maybe even take a week off from TV completely if you need to. I hope you find this helpful.
DeleteGirl!! thank you. It's not that we don't know but a little reminder goes a long way. Needed that to start my morning. Thanks. I'm encouraged.
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