This is the second post in a series designed to help readers understand the underlying themes and motivations of our heroine Daynia in Finding Romeo and to give you an opportunity to discuss it.
How far are you willing to go to make someone love you?
In Finding Romeo, we see Daynia, our heroine, behaving in a manner that most would call completely foolish. She is desperately in love with a man who, quite obviously, is not interested in returning her love. Yet, over and over, she compromises herself and her beliefs. So the question is posed, how far are you willing to go to make someone love you?
Is it okay to be the one in a relationship always making the changes, always apologizing, always trying to make amends? Should we make drastic changes to ourselves (changes that YOU don't like) just to get our partners to notice us? Should we always feel the need to fix ourselves to gain his or her attention?
These are several issues that point to an unhealthy relationship. Whilst there is certainly nothing wrong with making changes to unhealthy behavioral traits, or changing a hairstyle to maybe spice things up a little, eyebrows must be raised if these things must be done to gain a partner's love or even just their attention.
In the book, Daynia cooked, she compromised her values, she sat back and waited whilst being totally ignored, she knew she was being cheated on, but she stayed, she was stood-up over and over, she chopped off all the hair that she was in love with and still when the love of her life didn't notice her, she waited. Wow. Talk about desperation right? Or maybe just stupidity? Which is it?
What's your take on the issue?
How far are you willing to go to make someone love you?
In Finding Romeo, we see Daynia, our heroine, behaving in a manner that most would call completely foolish. She is desperately in love with a man who, quite obviously, is not interested in returning her love. Yet, over and over, she compromises herself and her beliefs. So the question is posed, how far are you willing to go to make someone love you?
Is it okay to be the one in a relationship always making the changes, always apologizing, always trying to make amends? Should we make drastic changes to ourselves (changes that YOU don't like) just to get our partners to notice us? Should we always feel the need to fix ourselves to gain his or her attention?
These are several issues that point to an unhealthy relationship. Whilst there is certainly nothing wrong with making changes to unhealthy behavioral traits, or changing a hairstyle to maybe spice things up a little, eyebrows must be raised if these things must be done to gain a partner's love or even just their attention.
In the book, Daynia cooked, she compromised her values, she sat back and waited whilst being totally ignored, she knew she was being cheated on, but she stayed, she was stood-up over and over, she chopped off all the hair that she was in love with and still when the love of her life didn't notice her, she waited. Wow. Talk about desperation right? Or maybe just stupidity? Which is it?
What's your take on the issue?
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Looking at things from a biblical perspective, Daynia is neither testified nor desperate but really acting out her inborn desire for acceptance, something we all possess. Howevere, the issue begins with who she seeks it from and how her upbringing and experiences may have influenced her culture and beliefs which thus results in such actions. Her situation may simply resemble that of an typical individual whose life and reactions to it is shaped by the outer world. The question is "Would she allow her beliefs to be remolded in favor of one revolving around Christ's teachings"?
ReplyDeleteHi there, is that your only blog or you in addition to that run some more?
ReplyDeleteThis is my only devotional style blog, however I do run a book blog that can be found at http://365bookwormz.blogspot.com.
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